Home is No Refuge
for Abused Women
Found by relatives on
Dec. 5, the body of Jocelyn Diaz-Pernia, 34, showed bruises on the face
and stomach and strangulation marks on the neck. Pernia’s case is not
unique. She is in fact just one of 12 victims of domestic violence
reported everyday.
BY DABET CASTAÑEDA
Bulatlat
Found by relatives on Dec. 5, the body of
Jocelyn Diaz-Pernia, 34, showed bruises on the face and stomach and
strangulation marks on the neck. Pernia’s case is not unique. She is in
fact just one of 12 victims of domestic violence reported everyday.
Pernia’s small concrete house was dim. The
only light came from the kitchen window that was left open. It was also
empty save for a bed that was left standing in the hall leading to two
rooms. In the middle of the second room, a red candleholder stood. It was
almost empty but the flame inside managed to give the room a streak of
light.
“D’yan sya pinatay” (She was killed
there), Victoria Apostol-Pernia, the victim’s mother-in-law, said,
pointing to where the lighted candle stood, almost two weeks after the
murder.
Joselito Jose, executive officer of the
Barangay Services and Development Office (BSDO), said witnesses reported
hearing Jocelyn and Elmer argue loudly on the night of Dec. 4.
When found the following day, Jocelyn’s
body bore signs of abuse.
“Pasa-pasa ang tyan at mukha.
May marka yung leeg na parang
sinakal” (There were bruises on
the stomach and face. There was a mark on the neck showing she was
strangled.), said Jose in an interview with Bulatlat.
In a separate interview, Victoria told
Bulatlat that Jocelyn, a seafarer, was scheduled to leave the country on
the day she was found dead. Elmer did not want Jocelyn to leave, Victoria
admitted.
Police suspect Elmer as the killer. The
husband however has not been found.
Jocelyn is one of the countless
women-victims of domestic violence. In 2005, the Philippine National
Police (PNP) recorded 12 cases of domestic violence every day - or one
victim for every two hours.
Violence at home
Jovita Mantaro-Montes, counselor for the
women’s group Gabriela (National Alliance of Women’s Organizations in the
Philippines), defines domestic violence as “men’s repeated and intended
exercise of their power and control over women.” It comes in the form of
physical, emotional, psychological, financial and sexual violence, she
said.
Violence against women, she added, may be
attributed to the culture of machismo and how men think with regards
relationships. “Ang tingin ng lalaki sa asawa nya ay isang bagay lang
na pag-aari n’ya na dapat ay kontrolado n’ya” (The man regards her
wife as an object that he owns and controls.), she said.
Gariela’s Health and Violence Against
Women Services Department, of which Mantaro-Montes is coordinator,
documented 161 cases of domestic violence from January to October alone
this year. More cases were reported to their office in December.
Mantaro-Montes said the severe economic
crisis contributes to violence at home. Women bear much of the burden not
only in making do with the daily family income but also in bearing their
husbands’ outrage. “Syempre kapag walang pera, kadalasan ay mainit ang
ulo ng mga lalake at napagbabalingan ng galit yung babae” (When the
men do not have money, they unleash their frustration and anger on the
women.), she said.
The rise in cases of domestic violence in
December may be partly attributed, she said, to the rise in the prices of
basic commodities due to the implementation of the Expanded Value Added
Tax (EVAT) last Nov. 1.
Aside from bearing domestic abuse, women
(wives and children alike) are also forced into prostitution. Gabriela had
reported that many women trade sex in exchange for a kilo of rice or some
groceries.
Cuts across classes
Last month, television personality Plinky
Recto came out to tell her story. A third generation scion of the Recto
political clan from the province of Batangas, Plinky sought the help of
Gabriela and faced the media to recount her ordeal from her long-time
partner.
Recto’s case shows that violence against
women cuts across all classes, Mantaro-Montes said. The only difference
between poor and wealthy victims is that the former has fewer options.
In one case, Mantaro-Montes said the
victim worked as a university professor just like her husband. When she
started to get beaten up by her husband, she sought the help of Gabriela.
The group advised her to move out of their house.
Leaving the place where the abuse took
place provides immediate relief to the victim, explained the counselor. If
she continues living
in the same house, the victim’s fears will continue to haunt her.
But while victims from rich and prominent
families may have an easier way out of the situation, they are also the
ones more afraid to talk because of their status in society. For them, it
is scandalous to be beaten up by the husband, said Belen Gravides,
counselor for the Family Community Healing Center of the Barangay UP
Campus in Quezon City.
But battered wives from urban poor
communities would rather stay with their husband and bear their misery
quietly than leave their abusive husbands, Mantaro-Montes said. This is
because they are usually economically dependent on their husbands.
In response to the women’s plight at home,
the government enacted the Anti-Violence Against Women and their Children
Act (Republic Act 9262 or the Anti-VAWC Act) in 2004.
Gravides said that since the law was
implemented, the cases of VAWC in their village decreased from 123 cases
last year to 96 cases at present. The men fear the punishment provided by
the law, she said.
But Mantaro-Montes said this could not be
a general trend since their organization received more complaints this
year.
One factor that renders the law inutile in
most cases is the fact that the woman needs money to hire the services of
a lawyer and file a case in court, the Gabriela counselor said. “For lack
of resources, underprivileged women are forced to suffer in silence,” she
added.
Pattern of violence
When interviewed by Bulatlat,
Apostol-Pernia tried to justify what she called her son’s “crime of
passion.”
But toward the end of the interview,
Apostol-Pernia, a retired public school teacher, admitted feeling bad for
her daughter-in-law. After all, she said, she was a battered wife, too. As
her eyes started to well up, she said it was the first time she admitted
it to someone else.
“But I’m free now because my husband is
already dead,” she said. She suffered for more than 30 years. She thinks
her son may have taken a cue from his father.
Although not in a general sense, there
seems to be a pattern of violence in the family, Mantaro-Montes said.
In the cases she handled, she said most
abusers were children of abused wives or were themselves abused.
“Parang cycle, hindi napuputol” (It is like a cycle that doesn’t get
broken), she said.
“Nagkakaroon ng tendensiya na
gayahin ng bata kung ano ang nakikita nya sa bahay.
Kaya yung mga pananakit, nagiging normal
na lang sa kanya yan” (The
child has a tendency to imitate what he sees at home. If there is
violence in the family, the child tends to think that it normal), she
added.
Not a safe haven
It is not only the women who are
victimized. Some children also suffer from abuse, molestation and rape
inside the home, the place where they are supposed to be safe.
In fact, in 2005, Barangay UP Campus
recorded 13 cases of child beating, one incest and one rape. The incest
case involved a 15-year-old and her father; the other was a 4-year-old
raped by a neighbor high on drugs.
Gabriela documented 30 rape cases
(including incest) and four child abuse cases, among others, in Metro
Manila. Police records however show 12 rape cases a day in the National
Capital Region (NCR). In Iloilo there are 24 cases of rape a day or one
rape case per hour, said PNP reports.
Region III Municipal Trial Court Judge
Dorentino Floresta said in a previous interview with Bulatlat that
in 95 percent of the rape cases he handled, the suspect is known to the
victim. “Bihira na
stranger ang rapist”
(The rapist is seldom a stranger to the victim). He also said that
the crime is often done inside or near the
victim’s house. Oftentimes, the perpetrator is a relative or neighbor of
the victim.
Floresta said that in many of its
decisions, the Supreme Court cited that lust has no respect for time and
place. Bulatlat
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